If anyone had told me ten years ago what my life would be like today, maybe just showed me a video of an ordinary Tuesday evening in the life of contemporary Steve, my eyes would’ve bugged out.I never had any idea things could be this good, that I could be so confident, that I would so often feel like smiling for no particular reason.I find it more accurate than “gay” or “queer” or any of the others, just because it suggests that homosexuality is something I have rather than something I . So the idea of gay culture, gay rights, gay marriage, gay anything really, is foreign to me.You might as well talk about gluten-intolerance culture, or musician’s rights.I wrote a whole article once about what it was like to be a celibate, gay Catholic, and what was the first response in the combox? ” Not that everyone who finds out that I’m gay is like that.Overwhelmingly, the people I’ve told — mainly family and close friends — respond with compassion and even admiration.
Pit bulls receive horrible press and the internet is full of misconceptions and untruths about this normally sweet and gorgeous breed of dog.I’m so used to being gay and Catholic, I forget how strange that sounds.I forget that, for some people, “homosexual” describes something like a different race, or maybe even a different gender.Put the sexual aspect together with the other things that homosexual men and women often experience — depression, low self-esteem, loneliness, a sense (however false) of being utterly — and you have a heavy cross. That’s not weird, that’s not strange, that’s not even gay.I’ve experienced healing in every area I mentioned above, but nobody’s healing is complete this side of heaven. But it’s not as simple as “look, but don’t touch” — chastity is a question of the heart and soul and emotions, as well as the groin. How do you learn to love another man without making him into an idol?He blogs at gaycatholic.com, under the semi-pseudonym of Steve Gershom, about issues of faith, sexuality, and mental health.