So I headed out to the coffeehouse in my skinny jeans and brown boots, singing at the top of my lungs to some Shania Twain girl-powered song to bolster my confidence. Enjoy the process and don’t worry about the results. My relaxed outlook meant that the guy would also be more relaxed and free to discuss anything he wished without the threat of being rejected or bulldozed.
I got there a bit early, but before long it was time for the 30-somethings to conduct their session. With this new perspective, I opted out of asking the popular questions most people would ask: Have you ever been married? The more I focused on these guys as individuals with their own personal hopes and dreams, the more I sincerely wanted to know their stories.
And then there was the guy who worked at the Edgar Cayce Institute.
He looked like he wanted to duck under the table when he found out that I worked at CBN!
Then when the appointed hour comes, the single women are asked to disperse themselves around the room, one woman per table, and the single gentlemen are then asked to go from table to table when given the go ahead from the organizer.
You have exactly six minutes to talk about anything that pops into your head with that person of the opposite sex.
Now, you have to understand that part of the impetus for my being at that coffeehouse that night wasn’t just my persuasive friend.
“Look, Laura, think of it this way,” my bright-eyed, bouncy friend persuaded me several years ago while I was in one of my indecisive, overly analytical moments.
“If it doesn’t work out, you can write an article about it!
I had been in a dating drought for more years than I wished to count.
I think part of the problem was that many Christian guys at the time had been told to “kiss dating goodbye” and hadn’t yet been encouraged to embrace the better concept of “kissing dating hello.” The confusion concerning courting versus dating didn’t help matters. And I waited for the opportunity to ask or rephrase or possibly even drop questions of faith like Do you go to church? Since my concern was to get each individual man’s story and not scrutinize whether the man was date material or not, I decided to take a wait-and-see approach on many questions.