You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.
You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.
For the last few months this has been by far the question I’ve received most often from readers.
I had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active.
Addressing the Active Profile Issue with Tact First off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.
Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.