Regardless of what’s going on, never give him the choice between you and his kids. After dating for a while, he may want you to meet his children.Until then, don’t pressure him about meeting his children.The idea of a boy who never grows up is promoted and even romanticized in our culture as sexy or just “the way men are.” Sadly, women often pay the price for such a prize because there are consequences to keeping this type of “man” in check. This may partly explain why men, by and large, benefit more from marriage than do women.
Thus, the reason for avoiding serious relationships.
The best thing that you can do for a man with children is to be realistic without being too nosey.
Don’t pretend that him having children will have no effect on your potential relationship.
As a good parent, he is more likely waiting until he feels your relationship is becoming serious before he introduces you.
To speed things along you may start by showing him that you could be his friend and your relationship will not hurt him.